BSW, RSW
Asexuality-Affirming Therapy
A safe, empowering and consent-based space to explore your sexuality, relationships and identity.
Throughout our lives women receive a bombardment of information about sex, about who is having it and when! How we're supposed to look, feel, how to attract men and women. How to be sexual.
For many women, particularly Neurodivergent women these ideas, images and societal dictates have very little to do with our lives. A large percentage of younger Autistic women identify as Asexual. Likely, many more older Autistic women are as well, but we simply don't have the language for it. If you've experienced a lack of desire, if you're more interested in the make up or the lighting in sexual scenes in movies, if you buy romance novels but skip the sex scenes you may be interested in exploring the concept of asexuality and how it might, or might not relate to you.
Gray Sexual
And That's Okay!
Gray sexual folks experience attraction to other people, but experience it with less intensity. Some Gray sexual folks experience attraction rarely, and with less intensity as well. This attraction is not necessarily tied to deep feelings (like in demi sexuality).
Aromantic
Some of these folks do have sexual desire and relationships, but they are not interested in the romantic part of relationships. Others, are not interested in romance and do not experience sexual desire.
How I Can Help
If you're questioning your sexuality, wondering whether you might be asexual, or already identify somewhere on the asexual spectrum, you don't have to navigate that process alone.
I offer asexuality-affirming, consent-based therapy for adults who are exploring asexuality, aromanticism, graysexuality, demisexuality or other ways of experiencing attraction and relationships.
Therapy can provide space to understand your experiences, find language for your identity, work through social expectations, and develop relationships and boundaries that reflect what you actually want.
You are welcome whether you are certain about your identity, questioning, self-identifying, or simply curious about whether the language of asexuality fits your experience.
Demi Sexual
Demi Sexual people do have some sexual attraction. This sexual attraction develops after strong feelings are formed for a partner. So an attraction might be felt for a long term partner, but not to someone passing on the street, or a character in a movie or television. If you're reading this, and you think that all people experience attraction this way, gently, they do not. Part of my work with clients in this demographic is sorting out the sometimes complex feelings that can occur with this realization.
Questioning
It may be that you know something is different about the way you experience sexuality, but you don't have the language to understand how you feel. It may be that you know somewhere in your self that you are an asexual person, but you don't quite know what to do with that. When you're not quite sure where you are on the spectrum, you may be a person who is questioning. Questioning gives you space to sort out where you are on the sexual spectrum and what you are comfortable with.
